Meditation has been shown to have many benefits as far as mental health goes, showing reductions in depression and anxiety among other negative feelings. We all know how good it is; a million blog posts will let you know.
But let me let you in on a secret. I hate meditation.
I find it mind numbingly boring. I find it impossible to sit still. My ADHD tells me I need to get up and do something. But I still want to reap the benefits of regular meditation.
So I took up something new – walking meditation. You focus on your breath and the feeling of your feet hitting the ground, similar to what one would do in normal meditation, but you’re moving, getting exercise, and get to keep your eyes open! I’ve been much more successful with meditation using this method than the traditional method. After all, it’s all about mindfulness, and as long as you’re practicing that, you’re giving your brain the same “exercise” it gets while meditating.
The link below is a good example of a guided walking meditation that you can try right now, no matter where you are. Enjoy!
So it’s World Suicide Prevention Day. And that’s a good thing to bring awareness to.
But how does one actually help the cause? I’ve seen a lot of posting of the suicide prevention hotline, and that’s all fine and dandy. Maybe some people aren’t aware that there’s help like that out there.
But here’s the truth.
Most of us are.
So posting it won’t help the vast majority of viewers. Instead you should make yourself available personally to talk to, and more importantly, treat others like you would like to be treated. Practice this in your everyday life, not just on Suicide Prevention Day.
This is a bit off topic, but still has to do with feelings and my mental well being so I suppose it still works for this blog.
To start us off, I’ll explain my predicament. I went to a Christian university as an atheist because it was close to home. I couldn’t leave home because I had to stay near our beloved coauthor (and my boyfriend) Matty, and also my severe anxiety put up a fight when it came to the idea of me leaving the nest. So I went to a Christian college.
How does it feel? It feels a little bit alienating. But it’s mostly just boring. I have to go to chapel every few days and I take an Old Testament class, both of which are mind-numbingly boring.
Do I regret my decision? No. I don’t fit in, but I have my boyfriend by my side. And that makes up for everything I have to put up with here. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices for those you love.
If you’re facing the same decision, do it if you have good reason and just tough it out. But otherwise, go somewhere else, because you certainly will not feel a sense of belonging at the college, and I wish I had that. Nothing against my college, it’s just not the best place for me.
Good luck to anyone currently picking a college. Make good choices.
I would like to draw attention to the subreddit /r/2meirl4meirl. It’s a little corner of the internet, quite an active one in fact, where users constantly post memes talking about wanting to die or how depressed they are. This is a stark contrast from /r/wholesomememes, which is supposed to make us feel better. However, some claim that /r/2meirl4meirl makes them feel better than any other form of comic relief. Here is an example of a meme you might see posted on /r/2meirl4meirl:
The same phenomenon can also be seen in millenials. They literally bond over wanting to die. Why is this? Why does negativity make us feel better than positivity?
My point of view is that it feels good to us to have someone understand where we’re coming from, to be right there with us in our feelings. It lets us laugh at ourselves, and maybe that’s not such a bad thing, even when it comes to serious topics such as suicide. In any case, whatever form of comedy makes you feel better, you have nothing to be ashamed of. It appears to be a very normal phenomenon, at least in our generation, to find such jokes humorous and to find relief in them. Keep doing you! On the other side of the coin, if such jokes disturb you, stay away from them. We’re all different.
Please offer your opinion in the comments on this phenomenon.
Plenty of us have ADD or ADHD, and it’s nice to hear from others who struggle with the same condition. That’s why tonight, I bring you three songs that mention ADD or ADHD.
ADD – Chris Webby
I can’t focus but it’s straight.
At least I got a good excuse
When all of my work is late.
Baby, can’t pay attention,
But there is still a place
In my brain that allows me to
Murder a mix tape.”
Looking on the bright side.
ADHD – Hopsin
“Never in my life, did I think I would get it
Until the other day they told me, I was diagnosed wit’ it”
Those are about the tamest lyrics in the entire song. Trigger warning for violence.
Weirdo – Chris Webby
And I saved the best for last.
“Ever since I came into the world back in ’88
Had anxious brain waves with a baby face
Up in my crib I just laid awake ‘fore I could say my shapes
I was immersed in this crazy place
Me and normal ain’t compatible
I am from another universe so come and tag along
I wasn’t like the other kids up in my class at all
Doctor saying, ‘Somethings wrong with him, give him Adderall'”
Pretty accurate, huh? Shout out to everyone who can relate! You’re far from alone, as you can see from this playlist.
“There’s an app for that!” you always hear people remark. But is that true? Well, it is in part for mental health! Here are several apps that are designed with that in mind, in no particular order.
If you think you don’t have time to meditate, you’re dead wrong! This app allows you to meditate for a short five minutes each day, gradually improving your mental well being.
Youper is an app that lets you have daily conversations with an AI (artificial intelligence) that aims to point out flaws in your thinking and reduce anxiety and depression. I’ve personally used it and felt much better afterwards. Maybe it’ll be a good fit for you too!
What’s Up? – A Mental Health App
“What’s Up?” has so many aspects that it’s hard to summarize them in just a paragraph. In short, and this list is not at all exhaustive, there’s a daily diary for you to store your feelings in, calming breathing techniques, and forums to communicate with others who may understand where you’re coming from. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. For a full list, see their description in the App Store.
To conclude, our phones can help us cope with our mental illnesses. They are not a complete remedy, but perhaps something we can implement along with other treatments. In any case, they’re free, so they’re worth a try!
It’s understandable to feel hopeless. This world puts us through struggles at every turn at times, and sometimes we just need someone to tell us that it’s okay, that your struggle is understood, and that you are not wrong for feeling that way. Sometimes music is a good way to get us through such feelings. At least it is for me. So, in no particular order, here’s my list of songs that you should listen to when you feel hopeless. Some will lift you up, and others will simply let you know that they understand. In any case, they have helped me when I’m in a dark place.